Tuesday, December 22, 2015

How To Be Confident

What's up, guys!

Sorry for being so inactive lately. The move and everything has taken its toll on me, and I've not had inspiration to blog, to be honest. But no worries, I have found it again.

This is something I've been meaning to talk about for some time now. Confidence. How do you become more confident as a person, without being arrogant?

I'm not saying I'm some expert on the matter, but it's something I want to keep improving at. Here's why:

In my opinion, confidence is key and it is very important. It makes life easier and better. Especially here in Finland (and why not all over Scandinavia, and beyond) people tend to think a little bit too little of themselves from time to time. I'm not saying people should be arrogant, because that is entirely different from being confident. However, a little more faith in ourselves and trusting our own gut would not hurt, either.

So, without further a do, here are my top tips of becoming more confident:

1. Believe in yourself

I know, how cliché.. But it is fundamental. "Whether you think you can or can't, you're right." If you don't believe you will get promoted or get a person to go out with you, you will most likely not. This takes time, but is something important to always work on. Believing you can is already halfway to succeeding at it!

2. Be your unique self

"You were born an original - don't die a copy". This is so vital, guys.. Don't become a copy of someone else, no matter how much you love / admire them. Nobody likes a copycat, and besides, there's only one of you - own your unique self and just be yourself! There's nothing wrong in wanting to better yourself, but never change or modify who you truly are in order to fit in or become "more likeable". Because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind..

3. Stop caring about what other people think

This one's hard, I have to admit.. But it is just pointless to stress and wonder what others might think of you all the time. What they think of you, is none of your business! We all want to be liked and appreciated, it is basic human nature. But if you value other's opinions more than your own, it is not healthy. YOU are living YOUR life, so only YOU should have a say in how YOU live it.

4. Don't compare yourself to others

There is simply no point in doing so. We are all different, even identical twins will have different situations and outlooks on life. Don't waste your time. If you must compare yourself with someone, look at yourself in the mirror and realize, it's your only competition. Or look at people who have less and are struggling - only to realize your advantages, how lucky you are and in order for you to start appreciating your blessings.

5. Get rid of the negative people

It is not hard to find negative nellies (as I like to call them) no matter where you look for them. By negative nellies I mean people who complain about the circumstances, the situation, the past, whatever. Be careful about who you spend your time with, as they will affect your mood, too. Focus on finding the positive people and allow yourself to be inspired by them.

6. Never limit yourself

If you feel unworthy or undeserving of great things and success, you won't even try to reach it. Believe in your abilities, dreams and visions for the future, and try to do something useful every day. Make little milestones along the way, conquer them and see, how it boosts your self-confidence and makes you more and more driven and goal-oriented.

Hope these were helpful to some of you who want to learn to be more confident. Maybe something to think about for a New Year's Resolution, if you're making some..? ;)

x Mira

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